Group Coaching Workshop in English for Aliyah Fulfillment

How to achieve maximum fulfillment in Israel for English speaking Olim in Modiin.

To register and receive more information please contact me: Sharon Almougy - Leading Coach.

Do something special for yourself that will have a ripple affect on all your suroundings today.

The Rise of the Compassionate Leader: Should You Be Cruel to Be Kind? - Knowledge@Australian School of Business

The Rise of the Compassionate Leader: Should You Be Cruel to Be Kind? - Knowledge@Australian School of Business

Are you a compassionate Leader?

"Name it Claim it Aim it"

3 Short Steps for choosing the "right" JOB

 

Discover and NAME your own internal strengths and values, CLAIM them and AIM them to find a job that you excel in and feel is right for you.

 

Name it: What are personal strengths and values? 

Strengths are your very own unique combination of talents, knowledge and skills. You can use your strengths to maximize your potential and position yourself to do what you do best everyday. People who are able to use their talents and abilities naturally excel. People who use their strengths everyday are 6 X more likely to be engaged on the job. (Statistical information taken from Gallup Strengths Center).

Personal values guide our decision making. Your values are the things that you believe are important in the way you live and work. They help you determine your priorities and they are probably the measures you use to tell if your life is turning out the way you want it to. When the things that you do and the way you behave match your values, life is usually good – you're satisfied. But when things don’t align with your values that’s when things feel wrong. For example if you value family, but work a 70 hour week in your job you will feel internal stress and conflict. When you’re aware of your values you can make decisions about how to live your life and are able to answer questions like;

1) What job should I pursue?

2) Should I accept this promotion?

3) Should I start my own business?   

A combination of strengths and values coupled with the ideal task or job can create "flow"* – something you definitely want to aim to accomplish. Flow is when a person performing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity. You don't notice the time it took to do the task you set yourself.

Now your task is to NAME your top 5 Strengths. Make a list of the top 5 things you excel in professionally. Then NAME the top 5 Values according the following guiding question:                    

Identify times you were fulfilled, happy, found meaning and satisfied? 

What values were present that made you fulfilled and satisfied?

Claim it: Claim and internalizing your unique strengths and values. An exercise for you to do that will help you internalize and claim your strengths and values on the way to aiming for the right job. Draw a 90 degree right angle where on one side has a list of all your strengths and the other side has a list of all your values. Then open the web and look for job descriptions that align your strengths and your values with the job descriptions. Plot the title of the jobs between the two sides of the right angle and look to see if new directions have opened up for you in your job search.

Aim it: Harnessing your strengths and values by aiming them to set up job networking meetings, re-writing your C.V. according to new job opportunities, sending your C.V to the right places. Start focusing on what you really want. You'll see that because of these realizations and new focus you will feel more determined to seek out the "right" job for you because you know what you're good at and what you fundamentally believe is the right step forward for you.

* Flow - A concept proposed by Mihály Csíkszentmihályi, from the area of positive psychology.

Successful Discovery's Ahead…

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Sharon Almougy M.A, Certified bilingual Hebrew/English Career and Entrepreneur Coaching.

Contact Information: sharonls@zahav.net.il | 054-3030709 | Linkedin profile: Public Profile

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Life Coaching FAQ Video

Another interview for you to see... Enjoy :) Sharon

A Video Interview about Life Coaching

I was interviwed about "all you need to know about life coaching".

Enjoy :) Sharon

בהירות אישית: להתחבר מחדש לעצמי

זה קורה לכל אחד מאיתנו – מישהו אומר לנו משהו שפשוט "מוציא אותנו מהכלים" כי זה נוגע בעצב חשוף ורגיש.

פעמים רבות אנחנו לא ממש יודעים מה קרה, למה כל כך התעצבנו, למה זה כל כך נוגע, מה קורה פה?

פעמים אחרות יש מצבים בהם אנחנו מרגישים קצת תלושים מעצמינו, לא מתנהגים בצורה אותנטית עם עצמינו או עם אחרים. זה בא לידי ביטוי כאשר אנחנו עושים דברים שלא מתיישבים עם האמונות שלנו ואנחנו מרגישים שאנחנו "הולכים ליד עצמינו".

לעומת זאת ישנם מצבים בחיים בהם אנחנו פורחים, אנחנו מרגישים מיצוי של הפוטנציאל האישי.  

כל החוויות הללו הן חוויות חזקות ועוצמתיות, אם לחיוב ואם לשלילה. עוצמת הרגש המתעוררת במצבים אלה יכולה לאותת לנו שיש נגיעה באמונות הבסיסיות שלנו – בערכים האישיים שלנו.

אך מהו בדיוק "ערך אישי" ומה מבדיל אותו מערכים שאינם כאלה?

כולנו מכירים ערכים אוניברסאליים כגון "שלום", "אהבה", "חופש", "דמוקרטיה". קוראים להם ערכים כי הם מבוססים על אמונות מהותיות לנו התורמות לנו לחיות חיים כפי שהיינו רוצים.

אולם לכל אחד מאיתנו יש בנוסף גם אמונות אישיות בסיסיות, שדרכן אנו רואים ומבינים את העולם שלנו ושעוזרות לנו להתוות דרך ייחודית לנו. בשפת האימון אמונות אלו נקראות "ערכים אישיים". הם חלק משמעותי מהזהות האישית שלנו ותורמים תרומה משמעותית כמצפן אשר עוזר לנו במערכת קבלת ההחלטות שלנו בחיים. ערכים אישיים מהווים אבני דרך, יסודות אישיים ו"מגדל האור" שדרכו אנו מרגישים הכי "אנחנו".

כאשר אנו חיים בפועל ביום-יום עפ"י הערכים שלנו אנחנו מרגישים שלמים עם עצמנו - תחושת מיצוי הפוטנציאל האישי. מאידך, כאשר אנחנו לא חיים עפ"י הערכים שלנו אנחנו מרגישים מתוסכלים, חוסר מיצוי של הפוטנציאל שלנו, תלושים מעצמינו, מתפשרים על עצמינו.

אם נחזור למקרה מלמעלה, כשאנחנו מתעצבנים ממשהו שגורם לנו לצאת מהכלים, פעמים רבות זה יכול להעיד על משהו שפגע בערך בסיסי שלנו כגון "שלום", "שלווה", "קשר" או "שייכות"- הערך שלנו נדרס.

בתהליך אימון, שלב מציאת הערכים האישיים האמיתיים שלנו הוא לב ליבו של האימון. פעמים רבות כשאדם מוצא את הערכים האישיים שלו יש לו תחושה חזקה של "חזרתי הביתה"; הוא מבין שהוא לא יכול לוותר עליהם, כי הם מי שהוא.

תהליך האימון עוזר לנו למקד את המודעות שלנו לערכים האישיים, להיות ערים להם, לגייס אותם ביום יום וגם ללמוד איך לפרש בצורה יותר מקדמת סיטואציות בהן אנו נתקלים בקושי ביום-יום.

דוגמא לקושי: אם יש לי ערך של "אנושיות" קשה לי מאוד לעבוד במקום עבודה בו אין שיתוף פעולה בין האנשים. מקום העבודה מרגיש לי מאוד מנוקר ובודד. כאשר אני ערה לזה ומעלה את זה למודעות אני יכולה לפעול בכמה דרכים: לעזוב את מקום העבודה, ליזום מפגשים חברתיים בין העובדים כדי לשנות אווירה בעבודה ועוד... כאשר אנחנו ערים לערכים שלנו אנחנו פועלים בשדה מוכר לנו שנותן לנו ביטחון עצמי, לגיטימציה להיות מי שאנחנו וגם מעצים אותנו לנהל את הסיטואציה במקום להיות מנוהלים על ידה.

בנימה אישית: כאשר אני התגליתי לערכים שלי בתהליך האימון הרגשתי הרבה יותר "אני", הרבה פחות מנהלת על יד גורמים מבחוץ והרגשתי שיש לי הרבה יותר אופציות ויכולת לקדם את חיי.

אני מזמינה אתכם לצאת למסע לגילוי הערכים האישיים שלכם...  

שרון אלמוגי MA, מאמנת אישית וקבוצתית מוסמכת (CCIL), חברת לשכת המאמנים בישראל, חברת סגל המרכז הישראלי לאימון וגישור "גומא", המתמקדת באימון אישי, אימון בארגונים ואימון בקבוצות, בעברית ואנגלית (שפת אם). פרטי קשר: sharonls@zahav.net.il, 054-3030709.

A Path to Practical Insight. ~ Lisa Wimberger

A must read article. From personal experience Mediation is life changing!!!

A Path to Practical Insight. ~ Lisa Wimberger

University News | January 2012

Really good and interesting reading

University News | January 2012

Train Your Brain to Focus - Paul Hammerness, MD, and Margaret Moore - Harvard Business Review

Train Your Brain to Focus - Paul Hammerness, MD, and Margaret Moore - Harvard Business Review

The Secret to Dealing With Difficult People: It's About You - Tony Schwartz - Harvard Business Review

The Secret to Dealing With Difficult People: It's About You - Tony Schwartz - Harvard Business Review

Great article. Something that happens to all of us and that we can learn alot from.

Emotional Intlligence Teaches Impluse Control - Topix

Emotional Intlligence Teaches Impluse Control - Topix

Really interesting article - worth a read.

Tips: How to find Life Balance

Balance – feels like breathing in a breath of fresh air entering your lungs, penetrating your cells and releasing positive energy outwards allowing our whole body to breath.  It creates stability, calm, equilibrium, poise and lots of other adjectives that maintain our sanity and self assurance. Yet it's really easy to become unbalanced in our day to day life that tends to sometimes tip us over the scale and jeopardize our status quo.

What do we do then in order to get back on track and save ourselves from falling off the edge?

1) Mindfulness exercises such as RAIN & STOP. Mindfulness is mainly attentive awareness of the reality of things (especially of the present moment) is an antidote to delusion and is considered as such a 'power'. This faculty becomes a power in particular when it is coupled with clear comprehension of whatever is taking place. Dr. Elisha Goldstein, (Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist),  writes in his blog: “Difficult Emotions: One Approach You’ll Want to Try", about R.A.I.N & STOP.

“R” is to recognize when a strong emotion is present. “A” is to allow or acknowledge that it is indeed there. “I” is to investigate and bring self-inquiry to the body, feelings, and mind, and “N” is to non-identify with what’s there. This non-identification is very useful in that it helps to deflate the story and cultivates wise understanding in the recognition that the emotion is just another passing mind state and not a definition of who you are. Utilizing R.A.I. N. as a practice can help you bring space to be with things as they are and grow in deeper understanding of what drives, underlies or fuels our fears, anger, and sadness in the search for balance.

2) S.T.O.P. Next time you find your mind is racing with a feeling of being overwhelmed STOP.                      

 S - Stop what you are doing, put things down for a minute. T - Take a breath. Breathe normally and naturally and follow your breath coming in and of your nose. You can even say to yourself “in” as you’re breathing in and “out” as you’re breathing out if that helps with concentration. O - Observe your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. You can reflect about what is on your mind and also notice that thoughts are not facts and they are not permanent. If the thought arises that you are inadequate or overwhelmed, just notice the thought, let it be, and continue on. Notice any emotions that are there and just name them. Just naming your emotions can have a calming effect. Then notice your body. Are you standing or sitting? How is your posture? Any aches and pains. P - Proceed with something that will support you in the moment in order to get back on track.

3) For those of you who want to take time out, Meditation with Self Guided Imagery is a powerful tool that helps us alternate our reality and gain new insights and perspectives on our lives.

So next time you're feeling off course, unbalanced and overwhelmed with emotion or stress try any of these simple methods to help you see your shining light.

They work. Good Luck!

Sharon Almougy – Organizational, Group and Certified Life Coach (CCIL); Sharonls@zahav.net.il; 054-3030709. Check out my Linkedin profile.

Fear of Losing Control; Fear of TOO much Control. Where are you?



What is control? What do we need to control? What is controlling us?

Control is managing; organizing; being in command; having power and jurisdiction. We can influence and dominate when we're in control.

Have you ever thought about why we need control? Control gives us a sense of security, a sense of direction. We know where we're going; we know what we want to do; it gives us clarity; it feels good; it stabilizes us. Control helps us to feel in control of our lives doesn't it?

Are we really in control of anything or does it give us a FALSE sense of security? Why do we fear losing control or fear too much control?

I want to suggest that I think control is an issue in our lives because it's gotten out of balance. Ask yourself honestly is control managing me or am I managing control in my life?

When we reach unbalanced levels of control in our lives, by striving for more and more control or by feeling victim to control that is self perpetuated or perpetuated by others we tend to feel overwhelmed; insecure; out of sink; depressed; stifled; stuck and other such feelings that are not stimulating positive thoughts to help us move forward.

We also tend to look for things that give us security and comfort when we feel that sense of "stuck" that can also lead to hampering our development such as over eating, turning to addictive substances such as cigarettes, coffee or worse… Our behavior can also become erratic and unbalanced.

What can we do to balance ourselves in order not to lose control of who we are and what we want to achieve?

Self awareness is the key and our starting point.

I want to suggest that you try and work your way through these four short exercises as a starting point.

1) Take out a big sheet of paper. Write the word control in the middle and within a three minute period and without thinking too much write down as many words that you associate with the word control. Read it over. It's remarkable how we become more self aware just be doing this small exercise.

2) Take out another piece of paper – fold it in half. On one side write down gains and on the other side write down losses. Make a list of what you gain from being in control and what you lose from being in control? Ask yourself what is working and what isn't working for me?

3) Then ask yourself what small change can I make starting today to create balance in the area of control in my life?

4) Ask yourself if control is managing you or you are managing it?

Good Luck!!!!!

Sharon Almougy – Organizational, Group and Certified Life Coach (CCIL); Sharonls@zahav.net.il; 054-3030709. Check out my Linkedin profile.